Having No Expectations

I have been talking to a lot of guys and girls lately about dating and I realized that many of them are unhappy with their dating lives. For one, I don’t think they see dating as being fun at all, and I realized that they are completely focused on what they are going to get out of dating. They are results-focused instead of process-focused, which could really make dating very un-fun. The reason is because dating is a lot like Forest Gump’s box of chocolates: You never know what you are going to get.

I find that the remedy to this is to just focus on the process (in this case the online dating system I developed, how I call/text girls, and how I conduct myself on a date) and to have fun. The other remedy I have for what I call the Dating-Hating syndrome is to have no expectations. Now the reasoning that my dating philosophy revolves around this mentality is very simple: You can only control your own actions and you cannot ever control the actions of another (even if you are an exceptionally skilled manipulator the other person always has some amount of choice).

Also I find (and dig down deep within yourself and you will find this to be true too) that the negative anxiety people feel towards dating doesn’t come from their own actions but their feelings toward their results and what other people think of them. I choose to remove this anxiety because I do not see any benefits and only tons of reasons why it is not helpful. Think about it. Being overly-anxious and negative only serves to put people off, which results in less dating-success. It also causes you to undermine your own self-confidence which leads to freezing up and not sticking to the process that serves to get you dating success. It causes you to reject people you might actually like and to reject yourself from going for what you want. I see guys that only go for nines and dimes, then fail to get them because they put these girls on a platinum pedestal, and then go home empty handed (well actually they put a piece of their broken manhood into their hand). At the end of the day it causes only loneliness and discontent.

On the other hand, I see guys (including myself) that have no expectations about their dating life (note: this does NOT mean that you have no standards or rules). Basically, every time a successful guy talks to women he doesn’t expect her to act in any way or that a certain outcome will or will not happen. He just follows his process that he knows leads him to success and lets everything fall as it may while enjoying himself. When I email a girl online, will she reciprocate? I don’t know. If I ask a girl for her number, will she give it to me? I don’t know. If I ask a girl on a date, will she end up going? I don’t know. If I like her and I’m having fun on the date, will it end up sexual at the end of the night? I don’t know. Honestly, I don’t care either. I know that I am not going to bat a thousand. I also know if I focus on trying to, then I will only cause a lot of anxiety within myself that tends to make the desired outcome even harder to reach. So I just let it all go, and have fun doing what I do to meet and date women.

This should make you guys (and gals) feel less crazy and stressed when dating and it will also lead to more success. If you REALLY want to figure out the secrets to ATTRACTING and MEETING the women you want, then do yourself a favor and signup for my FREE newsletter. Along with the newsletter you will get a FREE 10 page handbook and 15 minute video outlining my tips and tricks for online dating success. Go to www.webwomanizer.com NOW, and STAY TUNED for more products and services in the near future that will take your online game to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL. As always, keep womanizing.