Many guys (and girls) tend to write their profile in a way that is similar to making up a grocery list. Basically, they think of their best attributes, hobbies, likes, dislikes, what they want in a person, what they don’t want, and just write it all down in a very simple order. It usually looks something like this:
Hi, I am Mark. I am just another average 24 year old guy. I have an athletic build, and I consider myself nice, caring, intelligent, funny, and honest. I like going to the movies, listening to music, hanging out with friends, partying, working out and painting. I like long walks on the beach and in the park, but hate going out to the bar scene anymore. I want a girl that is good looking, nice, fun, smart, sweet, and sexy. I don’t like bigger girls or gold diggers though. If you are interested, then feel free to email me.
Now, I will concede to the fact that most people write their profiles like the one above. However, the # 1 SECRET to online dating is to be creative and stand out away from what everybody else does. One of the ways you can be creative and different in a way the builds ATTRACTION is to create images while writing.
Instead of saying: “I am athletic and enjoy working out” say: “My competitive athletic nature compels me to go into ‘Race mode’ every time I lock eye contact with the person next to me. My motto is: ‘Whoever faints, falls, and smashes their face into the burning rubber tread loses. Ready, set, BURN!’”
See the difference? One of them tells you while the other one SHOWS you. The second example creates an image and comes off as much more interesting than then one that just tells. Adding humor makes it even more effective because that adds arguably the most attractive quality INTO the picture that you are painting.
In conclusion, think of your profile as a picture that you are painting or a story that you are writing. You want to include imagery to GRAB the reader, HOOK them into your world, and keep them ATTRACTED.
If you are interested on learning more tips and tricks to ATTRACT the people into your life from online dating, then do yourself a favor and signup for my FREE newsletter. Along with the newsletter you will get a FREE 10 page handbook and 15 minute video outlining my tips and tricks for online dating success. Go to www.webwomanizer.com NOW, and STAY TUNED for more products and services in the near future that will take your online game to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL. As always, keep womanizing.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
A Little Humor Goes a LONG Way
So I have been talking to people and studying the initial emails and responses that some of my students give as well as what I write to girls. One thing that is common to all of the successful emails that get a good response from a woman is the inclusion of humor.
When I did my experiment as an undercover dating coach masquerading as a beautiful woman (see my What MOST Guys (and Girls) Do (and Do WRONG) in Online Dating article on that) I saw that many guys that we would think would attract women (looks, good job) would send the same kinds of messages and come off as alike and BORING. Now I’m no Einstein but I don’t think coming off as boring as everyone else is going to help you much if you are trying to ATTRACT that beautiful girl.
The KEY thing that I do (and everyone else that is successful at online dating for that matter) is to include a bit of humor in the first email. I like to think of the first email as a professional advertisement: The goal is to ATTRACT the reader’s attention, hook them, reel them in, and cause them to want to BUY the product. In a sea of boring alike emails the best way to do that is to get her to laugh. I don’t think it is too much of a stretch to say that causing someone to laugh is ATTRACTIVE. I mean, who doesn’t want to laugh? I know that I sure do!
Why does it work? Well, first of all you are separating yourself from the masses that will email her similar things and bore her to tears. Saying, “Hey, what’s up, cutie?” is not a great call to action in professional advertising or in internet dating. Secondly, many scientific studies have shown that a great sense of humor is one of the TOP QUALITIES that ATTRACT women. You just hit her with your wooden club called “wit” you caveman stud-muffin you! Thirdly, most guys will TELL her that they are funny. You, on the other hand, will SHOW her that you are funny. It is often said that “seeing is believing.” You can either tell her that you are funny, or show her proof from the get-go. Finally, it just works. The bottom line is that when you include your sense of humor when emailing women you will have MUCH better results!
So if you are now curious as to what kinds of funny things to send to a woman to ATTRACT her NOW, then do yourself a favor and signup for my newsletter at www.webwomanizer.com where you will get a FREE ten page handbook and 15 minute video giving you the basic guidelines for constructing humorous emails to attract the woman of your dreams. Also, STAY TUNED for future products that will help take your online wit to the NEXT LEVEL so you can ATTRACT the women of your dreams with little effort. As always, keep womanizing.
The Web Womanizer
When I did my experiment as an undercover dating coach masquerading as a beautiful woman (see my What MOST Guys (and Girls) Do (and Do WRONG) in Online Dating article on that) I saw that many guys that we would think would attract women (looks, good job) would send the same kinds of messages and come off as alike and BORING. Now I’m no Einstein but I don’t think coming off as boring as everyone else is going to help you much if you are trying to ATTRACT that beautiful girl.
The KEY thing that I do (and everyone else that is successful at online dating for that matter) is to include a bit of humor in the first email. I like to think of the first email as a professional advertisement: The goal is to ATTRACT the reader’s attention, hook them, reel them in, and cause them to want to BUY the product. In a sea of boring alike emails the best way to do that is to get her to laugh. I don’t think it is too much of a stretch to say that causing someone to laugh is ATTRACTIVE. I mean, who doesn’t want to laugh? I know that I sure do!
Why does it work? Well, first of all you are separating yourself from the masses that will email her similar things and bore her to tears. Saying, “Hey, what’s up, cutie?” is not a great call to action in professional advertising or in internet dating. Secondly, many scientific studies have shown that a great sense of humor is one of the TOP QUALITIES that ATTRACT women. You just hit her with your wooden club called “wit” you caveman stud-muffin you! Thirdly, most guys will TELL her that they are funny. You, on the other hand, will SHOW her that you are funny. It is often said that “seeing is believing.” You can either tell her that you are funny, or show her proof from the get-go. Finally, it just works. The bottom line is that when you include your sense of humor when emailing women you will have MUCH better results!
So if you are now curious as to what kinds of funny things to send to a woman to ATTRACT her NOW, then do yourself a favor and signup for my newsletter at www.webwomanizer.com where you will get a FREE ten page handbook and 15 minute video giving you the basic guidelines for constructing humorous emails to attract the woman of your dreams. Also, STAY TUNED for future products that will help take your online wit to the NEXT LEVEL so you can ATTRACT the women of your dreams with little effort. As always, keep womanizing.
The Web Womanizer
Monday, July 12, 2010
What MOST Guys (and Girls) Do (and Do WRONG) in Online Dating
Just recently I made a fake female profile on the free dating site Plenty of Fish. However, I didn’t just put up any pictures. I put of pictures of a smokin’ hot woman whose pictures I found off of Model Mayhem. The girl I created is Jessica. And if anyone was a 10, it would be her.
Anyways, after creating a profile and posting her pictures I had 3 emails from guys and 1 IM invitation BEFORE I even finished filling out the questionnaire and putting the profile up (I’m NOT even kidding). The sad thing is I didn’t even write anything interesting for her profile (except that she likes makeup and hair if you find THAT to be interesting). In less than a days time I had about 50 new guys email me (some even emailed MULTIPLE times, and no, I did NOT respond to one of them!).
This opened my eyes. I got to see the world of online dating through the eyes of a beautiful woman. Now I know why so many guys NEVER have any success at online dating. The thing is guys-- a beautiful woman INSTANTLY becomes the prize for the rat-race of guys that are pursuing her on these dating sites. Before I tell you what all these guys did wrong, let me tell you this—Most of them were athletically built, with good pictures, and good jobs. So if you think being good-looking or having a good job will put you over the rat race, then you are sadly mistaken.
Now, even though the attractive woman has many options, here is where things INSTANTLY go south and GREATLY DESTROYS any and all hopes of attracting the beautiful woman-- the first email.
I’m not even exaggerating when I say at least 90% of guys would send an email with “Hi” (the most common) or some sort of variation- “Hey” “Howdy” “What’s Up?” “Hello” or something similar as the subject line of their emails. Their emails had a little more variation, but generally they were split into a few similar types. The first type was the small talk email, usually “Hey, what’s up?” The second type was the complement email: “Just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful” or something similar. The third type was asking to look at his profile and then write back if interested. The fourth type was disqualifying himself by saying something like: “You are out of my league but I got to try… Hit me back”. The fifth type of email included a long list of traits ripped from his profile qualifying himself as a good match (cliché things like I am 22. I like riding motorcycles. Etc). Finally, the sixth type was the sexual come-on: “Hey sexy, I would like to ride your motorcycle. Holla back.”
Count them: 6 types of messages that are overwhelmingly sent to attractive women. Have you found yourself sending one of these types of messages?
The problem “Jessica” and other attractive women face is that even though they are being emailed by 20-50 new guys a day (that are physically attractive and have good jobs) they are really only being BOMBARDED by the SAME 6 TYPES of emails. And the even scarier thing is that all 6 types have NOTHING INTERESTING to say. Now I am not an attractive woman but even I was TURNED-OFF by the repetitive and boring flood of emails that I had to read over and over again. I found myself opening, quickly reading, and quickly deleting these lame emails. I don’t think it is a stretch to say that a real-life “Jessica” would be the same way.
Then, I had an idea. I tried to give all of mankind (which I pride myself as one of) a benefit of a doubt. I figured that I was bringing the problem onto myself by not being interesting enough in “Jessica’s” profile. I gave her depth: a love for philosophy. I gave her ambition: she’s going to school to get her joint MBA and JD. I gave her character: she volunteers in her church and helps out for the Special Olympics. I gave her adventurousness: She likes skydiving, hang-gliding, and bungie-jumping. Finally, I gave her standards: She doesn’t want guys to email her to tell her “hi” or the she is beautiful.
And you want to know what happened as far as emails go? Not a whole lot. I STILL got A LOT of those 6 types of emails. But I will say that I did get a few more INTERESTING emails. Mostly though, it was just guys talking about having similar interests as “Jessica” but that was still better than before.
The thing I want to point out here is that on the RARE occasion that I DID get an interesting email, I found myself not only reading it, but also LOOKING at the guy’s profile that wrote it. Now, I am not gay, but even I felt INTRIGUED by anyone who took the time to be OUTSIDE the BOX.
The whole point I am trying to make here is that if you want to be successful then don’t come off like every other “Average Joe” when emailing girls. Doing that will GUARANTEE that you be placed right into the rat race. She may email you back, but only if there is something about your look that makes you stand out from all of the other guys (and even a lot of them are good-looking too). An easier way is to just follow my system so you can STAND OUT and fly ABOVE the RAT-RACE.
Now, before I get off of here, girls you aren’t off the hook yet… I know FROM EXPERIENCE that if you write an interesting profile, then you will get MORE interesting emails from interesting guys. Also, “Jessica” got some of the 6-types of emails from some lesbian women as well. Girls, if you write like that, then I guarantee you will fall below the wayside as well.
Now, for more free dating tips go to www.webwomanizer.com and signup to get my 10 page report and 15 minute video packed with ideas to ATTRACT the women that you want into your life. And as always, keep womanizing!
Justin
Anyways, after creating a profile and posting her pictures I had 3 emails from guys and 1 IM invitation BEFORE I even finished filling out the questionnaire and putting the profile up (I’m NOT even kidding). The sad thing is I didn’t even write anything interesting for her profile (except that she likes makeup and hair if you find THAT to be interesting). In less than a days time I had about 50 new guys email me (some even emailed MULTIPLE times, and no, I did NOT respond to one of them!).
This opened my eyes. I got to see the world of online dating through the eyes of a beautiful woman. Now I know why so many guys NEVER have any success at online dating. The thing is guys-- a beautiful woman INSTANTLY becomes the prize for the rat-race of guys that are pursuing her on these dating sites. Before I tell you what all these guys did wrong, let me tell you this—Most of them were athletically built, with good pictures, and good jobs. So if you think being good-looking or having a good job will put you over the rat race, then you are sadly mistaken.
Now, even though the attractive woman has many options, here is where things INSTANTLY go south and GREATLY DESTROYS any and all hopes of attracting the beautiful woman-- the first email.
I’m not even exaggerating when I say at least 90% of guys would send an email with “Hi” (the most common) or some sort of variation- “Hey” “Howdy” “What’s Up?” “Hello” or something similar as the subject line of their emails. Their emails had a little more variation, but generally they were split into a few similar types. The first type was the small talk email, usually “Hey, what’s up?” The second type was the complement email: “Just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful” or something similar. The third type was asking to look at his profile and then write back if interested. The fourth type was disqualifying himself by saying something like: “You are out of my league but I got to try… Hit me back”. The fifth type of email included a long list of traits ripped from his profile qualifying himself as a good match (cliché things like I am 22. I like riding motorcycles. Etc). Finally, the sixth type was the sexual come-on: “Hey sexy, I would like to ride your motorcycle. Holla back.”
Count them: 6 types of messages that are overwhelmingly sent to attractive women. Have you found yourself sending one of these types of messages?
The problem “Jessica” and other attractive women face is that even though they are being emailed by 20-50 new guys a day (that are physically attractive and have good jobs) they are really only being BOMBARDED by the SAME 6 TYPES of emails. And the even scarier thing is that all 6 types have NOTHING INTERESTING to say. Now I am not an attractive woman but even I was TURNED-OFF by the repetitive and boring flood of emails that I had to read over and over again. I found myself opening, quickly reading, and quickly deleting these lame emails. I don’t think it is a stretch to say that a real-life “Jessica” would be the same way.
Then, I had an idea. I tried to give all of mankind (which I pride myself as one of) a benefit of a doubt. I figured that I was bringing the problem onto myself by not being interesting enough in “Jessica’s” profile. I gave her depth: a love for philosophy. I gave her ambition: she’s going to school to get her joint MBA and JD. I gave her character: she volunteers in her church and helps out for the Special Olympics. I gave her adventurousness: She likes skydiving, hang-gliding, and bungie-jumping. Finally, I gave her standards: She doesn’t want guys to email her to tell her “hi” or the she is beautiful.
And you want to know what happened as far as emails go? Not a whole lot. I STILL got A LOT of those 6 types of emails. But I will say that I did get a few more INTERESTING emails. Mostly though, it was just guys talking about having similar interests as “Jessica” but that was still better than before.
The thing I want to point out here is that on the RARE occasion that I DID get an interesting email, I found myself not only reading it, but also LOOKING at the guy’s profile that wrote it. Now, I am not gay, but even I felt INTRIGUED by anyone who took the time to be OUTSIDE the BOX.
The whole point I am trying to make here is that if you want to be successful then don’t come off like every other “Average Joe” when emailing girls. Doing that will GUARANTEE that you be placed right into the rat race. She may email you back, but only if there is something about your look that makes you stand out from all of the other guys (and even a lot of them are good-looking too). An easier way is to just follow my system so you can STAND OUT and fly ABOVE the RAT-RACE.
Now, before I get off of here, girls you aren’t off the hook yet… I know FROM EXPERIENCE that if you write an interesting profile, then you will get MORE interesting emails from interesting guys. Also, “Jessica” got some of the 6-types of emails from some lesbian women as well. Girls, if you write like that, then I guarantee you will fall below the wayside as well.
Now, for more free dating tips go to www.webwomanizer.com and signup to get my 10 page report and 15 minute video packed with ideas to ATTRACT the women that you want into your life. And as always, keep womanizing!
Justin
Thursday, July 1, 2010
The Number One Rule of Online Dating
Lately, I have been working with a few guys about optimizing their results in attracting and dating the women that they want from online dating sites. A lot of the questions I get are about what kinds of things to say when approaching a girl for the first time, how to keep the conversation going, how to get her number or setup a date, how to write an awesome profile, and even how to choose the right pictures. All of these are valid questions, but I have been finding one key issue that many guys are having that completely sabotages any and all prospect of success when dating online (or even in person for that matter). They refuse to follow the number one rule in online and any type of dating. This number one rule is simply this: Have fun!
I know, right? Seems simple. Seems obvious. Seems like common sense. And yet, most people (guys and girls) that I talk to struggle with this more than anything. I hear guys say things like “I email girls and never get good responses. I am so stressed out!” Or “I am frustrated because I am never meeting the type of girls that I want!” Or the classic: “I want a really nice girl for a serious relationship. Whenever I meet a girl that I really really like, I never see her again. I give up!” On the other hand girls aren’t that much different. Many of them say “I am tired of being hurt.” Or “I can never seem to meet Mr. Right.” Or “Why are there no nice guys out there?” (I will say one big culprit is not putting your best foot forward coupled with insanely unrealistic standards. That is a different topic for a different article though.)
Yet, every person I know that says one of these statements has the same thing in common: They see dating (internet dating especially) as a pain-in-the-ass thing to do in order to meet people. They agonize over all of the unattractive people and the creepers they have to go through to meet the people they want. They think too much about the time it’s going to take them to send out emails to interesting looking people and all of the effort they are going to have to put in to responding to people. They even pick out all of the flaws of the people that they are talking to sometimes to the point that they lose interest completely. And the crazy part is at the end of the day they get…
(Wait for it)
NOTHING!
People sabotage themselves by seeing dating as work or as a negative thing they have to torture themselves with to get what they are looking for. Funny thing is… For me and all the people I know that are successful at meeting and dating attractive people, we always have a blast doing it! That’s right—We have fun! Many self-help gurus say that you should focus on enjoying the process instead of getting results. I have to agree completely with that frame of mind.
When I send tons of emails out to beautiful girls all I am thinking about is how much fun I am going to have talking to and meeting so many attractive women. I think of how much fun I am going to have exercising my conversational jujitsu and wit. I get excited to read challenging responses. I am happy to talk to so many amazingly funny and intelligent girls. To summarize, I have a blast! And that gets me great results to boot! It’s like icing on the cake.
In conclusion, if you want to have an awesome dating life, then focus on creating a mutually fun experience for yourself and the people you date. Be positive. Focus on all the fun you will have talking to and meeting so many cool and interesting people (even if you have to meet a few unattractive people here and there in the process). Dating should be fun. Save the stress and negativity for your asshole boss at work.
Hope this helps.
Justin
I know, right? Seems simple. Seems obvious. Seems like common sense. And yet, most people (guys and girls) that I talk to struggle with this more than anything. I hear guys say things like “I email girls and never get good responses. I am so stressed out!” Or “I am frustrated because I am never meeting the type of girls that I want!” Or the classic: “I want a really nice girl for a serious relationship. Whenever I meet a girl that I really really like, I never see her again. I give up!” On the other hand girls aren’t that much different. Many of them say “I am tired of being hurt.” Or “I can never seem to meet Mr. Right.” Or “Why are there no nice guys out there?” (I will say one big culprit is not putting your best foot forward coupled with insanely unrealistic standards. That is a different topic for a different article though.)
Yet, every person I know that says one of these statements has the same thing in common: They see dating (internet dating especially) as a pain-in-the-ass thing to do in order to meet people. They agonize over all of the unattractive people and the creepers they have to go through to meet the people they want. They think too much about the time it’s going to take them to send out emails to interesting looking people and all of the effort they are going to have to put in to responding to people. They even pick out all of the flaws of the people that they are talking to sometimes to the point that they lose interest completely. And the crazy part is at the end of the day they get…
(Wait for it)
NOTHING!
People sabotage themselves by seeing dating as work or as a negative thing they have to torture themselves with to get what they are looking for. Funny thing is… For me and all the people I know that are successful at meeting and dating attractive people, we always have a blast doing it! That’s right—We have fun! Many self-help gurus say that you should focus on enjoying the process instead of getting results. I have to agree completely with that frame of mind.
When I send tons of emails out to beautiful girls all I am thinking about is how much fun I am going to have talking to and meeting so many attractive women. I think of how much fun I am going to have exercising my conversational jujitsu and wit. I get excited to read challenging responses. I am happy to talk to so many amazingly funny and intelligent girls. To summarize, I have a blast! And that gets me great results to boot! It’s like icing on the cake.
In conclusion, if you want to have an awesome dating life, then focus on creating a mutually fun experience for yourself and the people you date. Be positive. Focus on all the fun you will have talking to and meeting so many cool and interesting people (even if you have to meet a few unattractive people here and there in the process). Dating should be fun. Save the stress and negativity for your asshole boss at work.
Hope this helps.
Justin
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