Just recently I made a fake female profile on the free dating site Plenty of Fish. However, I didn’t just put up any pictures. I put of pictures of a smokin’ hot woman whose pictures I found off of Model Mayhem. The girl I created is Jessica. And if anyone was a 10, it would be her.
Anyways, after creating a profile and posting her pictures I had 3 emails from guys and 1 IM invitation BEFORE I even finished filling out the questionnaire and putting the profile up (I’m NOT even kidding). The sad thing is I didn’t even write anything interesting for her profile (except that she likes makeup and hair if you find THAT to be interesting). In less than a days time I had about 50 new guys email me (some even emailed MULTIPLE times, and no, I did NOT respond to one of them!).
This opened my eyes. I got to see the world of online dating through the eyes of a beautiful woman. Now I know why so many guys NEVER have any success at online dating. The thing is guys-- a beautiful woman INSTANTLY becomes the prize for the rat-race of guys that are pursuing her on these dating sites. Before I tell you what all these guys did wrong, let me tell you this—Most of them were athletically built, with good pictures, and good jobs. So if you think being good-looking or having a good job will put you over the rat race, then you are sadly mistaken.
Now, even though the attractive woman has many options, here is where things INSTANTLY go south and GREATLY DESTROYS any and all hopes of attracting the beautiful woman-- the first email.
I’m not even exaggerating when I say at least 90% of guys would send an email with “Hi” (the most common) or some sort of variation- “Hey” “Howdy” “What’s Up?” “Hello” or something similar as the subject line of their emails. Their emails had a little more variation, but generally they were split into a few similar types. The first type was the small talk email, usually “Hey, what’s up?” The second type was the complement email: “Just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful” or something similar. The third type was asking to look at his profile and then write back if interested. The fourth type was disqualifying himself by saying something like: “You are out of my league but I got to try… Hit me back”. The fifth type of email included a long list of traits ripped from his profile qualifying himself as a good match (cliché things like I am 22. I like riding motorcycles. Etc). Finally, the sixth type was the sexual come-on: “Hey sexy, I would like to ride your motorcycle. Holla back.”
Count them: 6 types of messages that are overwhelmingly sent to attractive women. Have you found yourself sending one of these types of messages?
The problem “Jessica” and other attractive women face is that even though they are being emailed by 20-50 new guys a day (that are physically attractive and have good jobs) they are really only being BOMBARDED by the SAME 6 TYPES of emails. And the even scarier thing is that all 6 types have NOTHING INTERESTING to say. Now I am not an attractive woman but even I was TURNED-OFF by the repetitive and boring flood of emails that I had to read over and over again. I found myself opening, quickly reading, and quickly deleting these lame emails. I don’t think it is a stretch to say that a real-life “Jessica” would be the same way.
Then, I had an idea. I tried to give all of mankind (which I pride myself as one of) a benefit of a doubt. I figured that I was bringing the problem onto myself by not being interesting enough in “Jessica’s” profile. I gave her depth: a love for philosophy. I gave her ambition: she’s going to school to get her joint MBA and JD. I gave her character: she volunteers in her church and helps out for the Special Olympics. I gave her adventurousness: She likes skydiving, hang-gliding, and bungie-jumping. Finally, I gave her standards: She doesn’t want guys to email her to tell her “hi” or the she is beautiful.
And you want to know what happened as far as emails go? Not a whole lot. I STILL got A LOT of those 6 types of emails. But I will say that I did get a few more INTERESTING emails. Mostly though, it was just guys talking about having similar interests as “Jessica” but that was still better than before.
The thing I want to point out here is that on the RARE occasion that I DID get an interesting email, I found myself not only reading it, but also LOOKING at the guy’s profile that wrote it. Now, I am not gay, but even I felt INTRIGUED by anyone who took the time to be OUTSIDE the BOX.
The whole point I am trying to make here is that if you want to be successful then don’t come off like every other “Average Joe” when emailing girls. Doing that will GUARANTEE that you be placed right into the rat race. She may email you back, but only if there is something about your look that makes you stand out from all of the other guys (and even a lot of them are good-looking too). An easier way is to just follow my system so you can STAND OUT and fly ABOVE the RAT-RACE.
Now, before I get off of here, girls you aren’t off the hook yet… I know FROM EXPERIENCE that if you write an interesting profile, then you will get MORE interesting emails from interesting guys. Also, “Jessica” got some of the 6-types of emails from some lesbian women as well. Girls, if you write like that, then I guarantee you will fall below the wayside as well.
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Justin
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